I'm going to be ridiculously honest here.
Growing up, I repeatedly asked God for one thing. To have a husband out there waiting for me. I wanted that love story more than anything. I held on to a terrible relationship for 3 years in hopes that I would get it. I wasn't trusting God's plan. I was forging ahead with my own plans; leading instead of following. All that got me was a lot of heartbreak, fights with family and friends trying to protect me, and a couple of major regrets. Yes, the happy ending shows up now, but please bear with me. This post isn't a brag fest about my pretty diamond ring or about my wonderful now-husband. This post is for the me of the past, and to every other girl just like me, praying for something that just hasn't happened yet.
First of all, I promise you, it is OK to be single. In fact, 100 percent of the time it's preferable to being in an emotionally damaging relationship. If you're in one of those, I know you want to make him a better person. I know you have faith that he can be. I applaud your efforts and I also beg you to stop. You can't make someone change. They either change on their own, or they never will. Not for you, not for anyone. Furthermore ladies, a man without God is a man you can live without. As the common quote goes, "A woman's heart should be so wrapped up in God, that a man should have to seek HIM, in order to find her." This is such an amazing thing to focus on instead of your single status or the man who JUST ISN'T RIGHT FOR YOU. He shouldn't make you constantly sad. He shouldn't put you down, make you feel bad about yourself, or get in the way of your other healthy relationships with family and friends. Ever.
|December 27th, 2013: The best day ever|